What’s a “daddy-o jones?”
Daddy-O Jones was born many years ago when my kids were much younger. On occasion, the three of us would “wrestle” on the living room floor. Actually, the wrestling was more like them jumping on me and me retaliating by tickling them into submission. After “pinning” them, I would use my best big-time wrestling ring announcer voice to declare myself “The winner … and World Champion … Daddy-O Jones!!!”
Sometime around 2011 I decided to create a website and write about my life and times and named it after that famous wrestler. daddyojones.com was fun because I learned how to do it and took some satisfaction by being on the internet. But I never really had a purpose with it. Now, unfortunately, I do.
As the husband, or I guess I should say widower, of a metastatic breast cancer victim, I am coping with many emotions. Emotions that others might have or will have on their journeys of love and loss. If there is a way that anything I write can somehow be of value to one other person in need of comfort, than whatever time I have invested here will be worth it.
This is Coleen’s story, a love story that should not have ended for her or for us. She was in her prime and we were settled in our groove. She took excellent care of herself and was cutting edge with alternative preventions. She fought her cancer so courageously, I think it’s important for others to know how Coleen went about her life while living with that dreaded disease. This is also the story of metastatic breast cancer and why that disease is so seemingly scorned in the world of cancer and breast cancer research. The reality is that most breast cancer deaths are not caused by a tumor in the breast. Death is more likely to occur when that cancer that started in the breast travels or metastasizes to other organs like liver, lungs, brain or bones. And lastly, this is my story. How I cope with the devastating loss of my friend, lover, confidante and soulmate. It’s about my journey to a place where I become at peace, where I am safe, where I can share with others.
So in spite of the silly name, daddyojones.com is here to:
- Share Coleen’s story so that her inspiration might help others deal with MBC
- Teach people about metastatic breast cancer
- Educate on how prevention matters more than pink ribbons
- Reach out to those 1 in 8 women who will have a breast cancer diagnosis in their lifetime and the 30% of them who will suffer from metastasis of that disease
- Help the men in their lives be a significant, contributing support to MBC women
- Find and share the resources that can help us all
We think that every couple should be as happy as these two. Forever.